Aiden's logic: Autism & Hitting
I got a note sent home from school today about my son Aiden. Apparently he had two "incidents" today- the first was when he kicked a girl from his class when she stepped into line in front of him on the way to the library. The second was when he punched a different girl for being bossy in french class.
This was the conversation I had with my son about these "incidents"
Me: So Aiden, how was school today? Were you good? (holding note from teacher in my hand)
Aiden: I think pretty good... yep... I was good. (sounding confident)
Me: What happened on the way to the library?
Aiden: nothing much, I was good. (looking vaguely confused)
Me: Did you kick a girl on the way to the library?
Aiden: Yep. (no guilt present in this response)
Me: And then you hit a girl in French class?
Aiden: Yep. (still not looking guilty at all)
Me: Was it the same girl both times?
Aiden: no... two different girls. (looking at me like I am insane for thinking he could hit the same girl twice)
Me: Aiden you KNOW you are NOT allowed to hit or kick or punch girls EVER!
Aiden: Well, I didn't do it very much! Only once! (looking like this is a perfectly good explanation)
Me: Once is too much Aiden! You can NEVER hit or kick a girl. Not EVER!
Aiden: huh? (looking shocked and appalled)
Me: Kicking a girl once is too many times since you are supposed to kick her ZERO times.
Aiden: WHAT??? ONCE is too much??? (now looking incensed and horrified)
Me: Yes, once is definitely too much.
Aiden: That's crazy. I think 5 times, or maybe 10 times should be too much. But not once. Once is barely at all. (spoken as though this is the most logical thought in the world)
Me: Once is too much. Don't hit. Don't kick. Don't punch. Anyone. Ever. Under any circumstances. Not boys and especially not girls. Ok?
Aiden: that's just weird. Can I go outside and play now? (translated " you are crazy mom and I am done with this conversation")
Me: Yes. As long as you don't hit/kick/or punch anyone.
Aiden: okaaayyyy, I promise. I'll try not to do it. I'll try. But once still shouldn't be too much.
(and out the door he goes)
Boys are fun aren't they? :)